Comedian and talk show host, Teju Oyelakin, popularly known as Teju Babyface, has warned men against confessing infidelity (cheating) to their partners, warning that such admissions could have catastrophic and damaging consequences.
In a YouTube video, Teju argued that confessions are often caused by guilt rather than genuine “honesty”.
According to him, such confessions may end up damaging their relationships instead of mending them.
He claimed that those who confess to cheating usually do so to ease their conscience or to trigger a reaction that could lead to the end of the relationship.
“If you cheat on your wife or your husband, but especially your wife — especially men — if you cheat on your wife, don’t tell her. Don’t confess. Do not ever do it,” he said.
“It is one of the most catastrophic and damaging things you can ever do in your life.
“People will even quote the Bible to support the idea of confession. They will say that if we confess and repent, then our sins are forgiven,” he said.
READ ALSO: I used to be a skilled cheat back in High school, Kim Kardashian reveals
“Excuse me, that is to God and from God, not to man. It is confession to God, not to man. Do not do it.
“But the reality is, the truth is you are not being honest, no, you are being manipulative. If honesty were your greatest strength, then you would at least be honest with yourself as to why you want to confess. The reason you want to confess is not because you are honest.
“The reason is that the weight of guilt, guilty conscience, is killing you, and you are looking to share it with somebody. You are looking for somebody else to bear the burden with you or you’re trying consciously or subconsciously to sabotage your relationship and you are hoping that by telling them, by telling your wife or your husband, your spouse, your partner, your significant other, you are hoping they will do exactly what most people do, that they will go up in flames and torpedo and grenade and scatter the relationship. That’s what you’re hoping for. In other words, there is no benefit to your spouse when you confess. All the benefits are yours.
“The first question you must ask yourself is this: what exactly are you trying to achieve with your confession? This is confessing that you want to go and do it. What is the objective? Ask yourself that question because people who confess manage to convince themselves that they are trying to come clean, that they are being honest.”
